This has come up a fair few times, in the last week and I just wanted to share a bit of insight.
When I had my girls, I was so young and deeply in the trenches of my survival mechanism. I honestly believed that working was the only way I could give my kids the best life.
I had started valuing things outside of me that I forgot what was in front, my girls, my husband, my little family.
Don’t get me wrong, I was and am the most amazing mum to my girls. I know that within me. Everything I have done is for them.
But had I received the support at the time I think I may have chosen differently, or at the very least it might’ve created a spark to ask questions.
Time is precious with our babies, they’re only little for so long. When they watch you that is how they learn what is important ~ You are in fact their greatest example.
When I see Mum’s who are now choosing to stay home and be with their little ones, it heals my heart. We need to understand that when we have little ones, it’s TIME they need most. Not toys, fancy homes etc..
It feels along the way we have lost sight. Being a parent is incredibly hard, especially when you do it alone. I get it, but I think too often we value and feel the pressures of living a lifestyle you THINK ‘you should have’, over TIME with our cubs.
When we sacrifice TIME, for things. We teach our kids to value things on the outside. And we wonder why people feel lost and unhappy, choosing to work themselves to the bone for things. Which is absurdity to me!
This is in no way to shame or judge working mothers, remember I used to be one for nearly most of my kids' lives, it’s just sharing some insight on what has united in my heart.
My biggest purpose has always been a Mama bear, I love my cubs and am fiercely protective of them. They are the ones who fill my heart with the greatest love.
If I could go back to my younger self, I would tell her not to rush, to slow it down. That juggling and being everything & pleasing everyone is not the way. That being a Mama bear is enough!
But we need to understand the only way we change as a society, is doing the very difficult task of being with our babies. Even when it gets tough, even when the world is telling you that you are not enough.
These social structures and conditionings that as a woman “you can do it all” isn’t serving humanity. Right now, more than ever we need better support for our mothers. Better support for families with little children. It’s so sad to see undeniable stress in families with little ones, with both father and mother feeling these social pressures.
So, when you see families with little ones, come from a place of understanding. No one likes feeling judged! The sacrifices you feel now, will be your biggest triumph in the future.
All the noise of the outside world is just distraction for the real work!
Mish
Creative Roots Breath Therapy
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